Something about relationships... (Because isn't that what I am always talking about?)

     This is from my amazing friend, Gerald Rogers. I have learned so much from him in the last year and I continue to learn from him. If you get a chance, follow him on Facebook. Get involved in his discussions. Breathe in everything he has to say, even the funny stuff. He's a smart man and one I am so thankful and lucky to call my friend.

"You must BE the type of person you want to be in a relationship with. 

We tend to attract romantic partners based on where we're at. We hope that they will fill a need where we are lacking, but instead are disappointed when they show up as our mirror, unable to fill the hole inside of us. Somehow the people we are attracted to are those who are most qualified to trigger our insecurities and validate our existing beliefs. 

If a woman believes that men can't be trusted, she will always find validation for how she is right. Every relationship she steps into will validate her existing story. 

If a man believes that women will just try to control him and limit his freedom, he will always feel stuck and limited in relationships. 

I see so many people leave a relationship, break up, get divorced, and then go on to find a new partner, only to realize they are back in the same relationship, just with a different person.

In order for us to be in a healthy relationship, we must be healthy as an individual first. We must focus on our own healing, our own growth. We must stop looking for the other person in the relationship to fill a need that we have that can only be filled by us. 

We must have a healthy relationship with OURSELVES, before we can ever expect to have a healthy relationship with ANYONE ELSE.

If you want more trust, be more TRUSTWORTHY.
If you want more connection, be more VULNERABLE.
If you want more love, be more LOVING.
If you want more fun, be more PLAYFUL.
If you want more sincerity, be more AUTHENTIC.
If you want more peace, be more FORGIVING. 

BE MORE OF WHAT YOU WANT HAVE IN A SPOUSE... and you will attract more and more of that from your partner."

-Gerald Rogers 

https://www.facebook.com/geraldrrogers